“Authenticity”

  As a coach and as a coach-in-training I hear “be authentic” all the time. Why is this a problem? It’s incredible to me that people are trying to be anyone else! I see a few people online, posting like their favourite mentors, trying to desperately “provide great value” and “ask the hard questions” or “say the things everyone’s thinking but no one’s got the balls to say”. They have blog posts with SEO keywords in all the right places, the right length, the right structure etc. It might work for them, it might work for some clients, and great! But …

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How to overcome your resistance (aka WTF is going on in my body, I can’t possibly live my dreams feeling sick, I better wait until I’m better)

WTF is going on in my body, I can’t possibly live my dreams feeling sick like this, I’ll wait until I’m better… and other total bullshit your poor wee self will tell you. But, I, as your coach and happy fun time buddy, will teach you how to overcome this.  You’re welcome. First of all – what is resistance?  Are you feelin’ it?  How do you know it’s a real ‘thing’? To clarify – I am talking about resistance in terms of your growth, your desire to be better, do better, have better. Resistance is your ego telling you it’s not …

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The truth about WHY you need to forgive…

The truth about why you need to forgive… (hint: cos you probably don’t even know WHAT you need to forgive) I’ve been having some epiphanies lately.  It seems once you’ve told everyone you’re trying to do something awesome and big and scary like leveling up your life even though you can’t hear yourself think over the knocking of you own knees, you are called to action in more ways than one. One of those ways is in having to get rid of some old bullshit story you carry around with you.  You know the stories – the ones that stop …

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How to screw up the best laid plans….

How to screw up the best laid plans… and how to say ‘screw that’ and push through anyway…. At least, that’s the next step! I’ve been in bed for more than 24 hours.  Actually, 36 hours, and not all of them in bed.   Some of them in an ambulance.  Some of them on the floor.  Some of them in the bathroom.  Some of them out cold.  Some of them being fed jello by a really quite nice doctor.  Some of them being scrubbed down by…. unfortunately not the doctor – a grumpy matronly nurse.  Not because the doctor was …

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3 kick-ass secrets the ya-ya sisterhood didn’t tell you about…

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1.  Sisters are lionesses.   Yup, seriously.  Fiercely supportive and protective of each other, all striving toward goals that we are 100% behind each other on. Despite what a certain movie would have you think, we don’t need to put each other through hell and then stand side by side regardless to prove that we’re good for one another. What do I mean by lioness?  I mean fearless, determined, ambitious, focused and in ‘flow’.  And as these qualities wax and wane because, well because LIFE, each of our sisters picks up and supports each other at different times, for different …

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The woo-woo and the huntress.

Once upon a time, a blog was started, about 100 years ago, called Live Real Happy.  This blog was going to be focused on being happy by being honest and authentic. Yes, that was going to be an awesome story – but, unfortunately, back then I was scared of the woo-woo (ha! how things change!), even the word “authentic” sounded a bit woo-wooey and cliché to me then.   I tried to get over it, and bravely sent all my friends emails to tell them that was what I was doing.  I got a pretty good response, and that was great!! …

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How to chuck yourself in the deep end in ONE easy step.

*SIGH* A big sigh from a sweet little girl voice came through my computer.  I was on skype, talking with Jeannine Yoder, The Coach’s Coach and founder of the Mentor Masterclass.  For that phone call, Jeannine was probably one very few people to whom I’d been fully 100% myself in the very truest sense… well, maybe ever.  Not that that has been conscious, just… the way it’s been.  The sigh was a signal that she wanted us to both just breathe and relax before we got started. I checked in with my gut, rather than my ego, and asked myself …

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